Beliefs = Thoughts = Emotions 

Beliefs drive your thoughts, your thoughts drive your emotions. Did you know that Emotional phrases keep us from getting or going we’re we relly want? It clouds our judgements and makes it so we can’t see who we relly are. 

Emotions can be described as a psycho-physiological reaction to a thought. Your emotions are linked to your thoughts. Most people believe that their emotions are triggered by what other say or do, also by our Circumstances outside your control. So for example in my last blog I talked about how I had so many people living with me and I felt angry they were all taking advantage of me.  I felt depressed because i didn’t feel like anyone cared. This is all emotions controlling my thoughts. When you chose to think like this you become a victim of everything and everyone around you. 

So let’s flip it and have your thoughts drive your emotions. So let’s observe our thoughts and decide what ones to believe. When you let your emotions drive your thoughts you become the victim. When you observe your thoughts you begin to take control. When you separate self and thought it can be the most powerful concept to self development. 

So now let’s talk about Beliefe. Our thoughts come from our beliefs of what we already decided about ourselves and the world around us. We are influenced by our upbringing, or schools, or religion and our culture. 

By observing our thoughts we can begin to filter out what we now believe and what we no longer believe. So let’s take an example of myself. My dad chose to take his life and as a child I always felt like I was never good enough, always wondered what I did. I remember that last visit I had with my dad he picked me up and we went for a drive. I was so excited to see him and be with him that I couldn’t shut up. I asked him to take me to  Disneyland, take me hunting (dad loved hunting but not me). By me a Mini bow and arrow ( I cried  hysterically  when he shot a rabbit with one). I went on and on. I relly don’t remember him ever saying anything but I’m sure he did. He dropped me off and that was the last I saw of him. So did I push him to take his life? I was 10 when he shot himself. Without realizing it I tried hard and give everything to my relationships. I had to be the perfect wife or girl friend be who they wanted me to be.  After my first divorce I felt like o failed.  I couldn’t be who he wanted me to be. I was worthless... from then on out I chose men I thought I was worth. Because of that I was cheated on, which I deserved, threatened, feared for my life, feared for my family’s or friends life who interfeared. Was emotional and physically abused.  (I was never beaten just slapped or backhanded not that this is still ok). But because of my beliefs about myself I was a victim. When I observed my thinking I was able to realize that it wasn’t true. My dad didn’t take his life because of me he did it because he was sick and needed help. My divorce wasn’t because of just my failures but his as well. We didn’t have the right tools to have a healthy marriage. What a change of thinking. 

Once a negative beliefe is undone it can no longer generate negative thoughts. It can no longer hold you back or cause you pain. 

When triggers to your emotions come up you can recognize the absurdity of some of your thoughts and now you can simply find a healthy substitute it. There is no going back to your old patterns. 

When I heard this for the first time and tried applying it to my life I’ve been able to change my some of my beliefs and it’s helping me to move on with the next steps to healing. One big example, in some of my most abusive relationships I’ve always been blamed for everything in the relationship. His bad behavior was a result of something I did to cause it. When I would get angry I would be told I’m to sensitive. He was then always making fun of me, calling me names and pushing those most sensitive thoughts, just to help toughen me up. My trigger now is someone telling me what to do or I’m doing something wrong. It’s is also when I think or hear someone making fun of me or talking about me. When this happens my thought went back to I’m not worth anything, i will never achieve my goals. Even though now I know about emotional abuse I always believed that there was a grain of truth to what he said.  Now when someone makes fun of me or tells me I’m wrong I can go back and filter out the lies. I now feel sad for those who make fun of people or talk bad about them. Sad that they feel so low about themselves or have some of their own issues. It was so funny one day when I wanted to go up to a coworker who is always talking badly about others and I wanted to teach them about these Principles.  I probably will. 

So now I want you to try this! It’s life changing! Please if this helps you at all leave me a comment and tell me how this helped you and then share this with others that you think this can help. 

Thank you for reading, Stephanie